Dating through time

Feel free to ask questions, but seek to understand and not help solve.

One last thing to keep in mind: It’s unfortunate, but sometimes in an effort to help, women actually cause men to retreat deeper into their shell because of how they react to his withdrawn behaviors.

If you are a well of appreciation, love, and admiration, he’ll feel good around you and it will have a healing effect on him.

He’ll feel relief and he’ll appreciate that you’re not trying to play therapist with him.

If you start offering help or support to him, a lot of guys will actually resent it.

They won’t resent the gesture in it of itself, but they’ll resent the fact that they feel like they’re an object of pity … MORE: What to Do When He Says He Needs Space Instead, the best thing that you can do is admire and appreciate all of the good parts of him.

Just be a well of admiration, appreciation, and love and give him the space to come around.

Next, make sure that you give him space Well, remember what I was saying before about guys not wanting to appear out of control or needing of help/support?

That is statistically similar to the 17% of online daters who said that this had happened to them when we first asked this question in 2005.

Even today, online dating is not universally seen as a positive activity—a significant minority of the public views online dating skeptically.

It’s important that you don’t take his being withdrawn personally. When a woman is upset about something, most women talk to their friends and lean on their support group. Guys, on the other hand, typically view themselves as weak and incapable if they voice their feelings or lean on other people for help or support.

A guy might do it, but he’ll typically feel like a loser or weakling for asking for support or even talking about his feelings.

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